Shabbas Activities

Well folks, since March 2011 this year, I have decided to be lenient on Shabbas on things like using the lights and the internet and television and all that such.
For a full year from Mar 2010 to Mar 2011, I looked at becoming ultra orthodox and keeping the ultra orthodox shabbas as they do without making any electrical changes, no internet, no television, no driving (which I mostly still do not do as I stay home mostly all day) and no phone calls.
I must report here that during that year, I became increasingly angry at all of the "reform" jews who I might see after sabbath posting things on the facebook or internet.  This bothered me alot as if the ultra orthodox were right and we could not make electrical changes on shabbas, then clearly the reform were blatent shabbas violators.  I was upset once when I got an email from a reform jew on shabbas.  It bothered me and I cursed per se the very existence of the other person's right and need to do anything on shabbas.
I was markedly unhappy but I still thought that "I was alright".
Suffice to say, its been about half a year since I made the change no longer to watch the shabbas as the ultra orthodox think is the "correct and only way to do so".
I am much happier.  I enjoy posting on shabbas like this note and I must say that I do not feel that our Creator is angry with me or going to "send me to hell". 
I must say that I disagree with this ultra orthodox mind set and I now completely understand why there was a reform in judaism about 200 years ago.  It seems that the ultra orthodox and conservatively orthodox who may have had a big hold on the synagogue and other aspects of jewish life are really a totalitarian system and that is something that can not be obliged. 
So sadly the reform does not serve my own needs today.  They do not use a separation in synagogue between male and female worshippers and to me that is a problem. 
But I am glad that they do exist in a sense as if we were all ultra orthodox, it would not be a fun situation and we would not be living as well as our G-d might have intended for us to live.